What’s Impossible? The Lies YOU Tell Yourself.

I have a little piece of paper that I’ve cut out from a dictionary and attached to my monitor with the word “Impossible” on it.

I’ve always hated this word since it filled me with a feeling of uneasiness. Something that can’t be done, no matter how hard I try I will fail, so why bother in the first place?

“What the fuck!”  I thought.  “This is not right, I should be able to make of my life whatever the hell I want!”

But not everything is possible, right? hence the word impossible. Well, no, not even close.

You see, when I was cutting off that word from the dictionary it felt like taking the very meaning of impossible and removing it from my (mental) dictionary. Why should someone, why should YOU live this life with such a limiting word in your head?

It’s crazy to even think about that word when you just have this life at your disposal.

But I know that this is not the only thing that is stopping you from realizing your dreams. There IS something else:

Your abhorrence towards Hard Work

When it comes to realizing something hard and worthwhile, the people who use the word “Impossible” are usually the ones who don’t succeed, and they have 2 things in common:

  1. They DESPISE working hard.
  2. They LOVE daydreaming. (which would’ve been fine if only they didn’t despise hard-work)

But the Impossible thing about this all, it’s not even the word itself.

It’s the mindset you have, the “Impossibility Mindset” that you have engrained into the depths of your psyche, that is stopping you from even REMOTELY considering the thought that maybe, you can really do what you want to do.

But no.

You’re programmed by society’s standards of what is possible and what’s not. Your friends, family and loved ones all say so, to leave it be, that is not realistic.

But at some point in time you REALLY believed it was possible, right? that just means that the thought of it being impossible it’s not yours, after all. Is something you picked up while cruising through life and that just happened to set itself in stone because of some failures you experienced…

BUT IT DOESN’T HAVE TO BE YOUR REALITY.

The process behind this is simple, but overcomplicated:

  • Reject the impossibility of whatever you’re after, along with the word “Impossible”.
  • Understand that “Impossible” is just an inflated, enormous and misused word for something that did not took place YET.
  • Work so hard and smart until your goals are finally reality.

Exactly like I did, You too can remove the very meaning of that word from your life if you’re willing to decide so and reject the common standards that are forced onto you.

Take care,

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6 Effective Ways To Find Success Faster (Without Relying On Luck)

Success, unlike the majority of people believes- it’s not created by blind luck, instead- success it’s the result of a series of (usually good) decisions that compound together. More specifically, these decisions are also heavily “sticked to” habits that one might have imposed on itself, in order to succeed. Here’s some:

1. STOP PARTYING EVERY WEEKEND

How your liver will look if you keep partying every freaking week.

This may seem obvious, but isn’t to some. How’s your future supposed to benefit from you getting wasted? It doesn’t – it makes you unhealthy, pitiful and WEAK.

Ditch the booze, it’s not helping you. You’ll thank me once you don’t even have a drop of alcohol in your body.

2. STOP PROCRASTINATING/PLAYING VIDEOGAMES.

I’m guilty of this, too.

Listen, i love videogames – but you have to realize that you’re losing 8 hours a day “working” towards nothingness.

How come you can focus for that much time while leveling up your character on World Of Warcraft, and then when it comes to doing something that can actually put you in a better position (Working out, building that business, finishing that paper ecc…) you get flustered within the first 3 minutes? I mean, what the hell.

And that applies to mindlessly scrolling through social media\Youtube – too. What are you, a drug addict? you don’t need to check that fucking stuff so much, Twice a day it’s enough – START FOCUSING, TIME DOESN’T COME BACK.

3. IGNORE THE USELESS.

Haters,
Who doesn’t believe in you,
Negativity,
The News,
Porn, (that can count as procrastinating)
People who talk the talk but haven’t walked the walk,
Who no longer serves anything in your life,
What society says.

4. PUT YOURSELF SO SUCCESS CAN FIND YOU.

Do nothing and you will get nothing.

In order to success to find you, you need to put yourself between OPPORTUNITIES – that means that you have to recognize, analyze and then take chances that are presented to you- make some dust, create connections with people, take that job if you think you can use it as a stepping stone, do something you didn’t think you could do or that you deem “out of reach” or out of your capabilities.

You see money flowing from somewhere? JUMP INTO THE STREAM, and see how you can gain from it.

What i’m trying to say it’s that you have to be action-oriented. Because by doing, something always come back – Every action causes a reaction.

5. STOP CHASING WOMEN.

This is aimed more towards men, but it can be generalized, and it’s pretty self explanatory.

Instead of losing time chasing women and what’s between their legs, focus on your passion, your purpose – your life.

Fix it, because as you are now you’re not ready to get in a relationship, you’ll get your heart broken without understanding why, and you really don’t have that kind of time, do you? you’ll see that as the more you build yourself, women will come by themselves, and not some low quality ones that go sleep around with everyone.

And the more important lesson from this is : MORE TIME FOR YOU TO BUILD YOURSELF.

6. DO THE OPPOSITE.

Of what everyone does, because you will not achieve success by doing what everyone else is doing.

You HAVE to be the exception, the 1% – because success it’s not found in “being normal”, success only follows the extraordinary, the ones who dare to shoot not for the Moon, but for Saturn.


Innovate. Make the old obsolete by building something new. Concentrate on your strengths while polishing your weaknesses.

Because by doing what the majority does, you will achieve that majority’s results.

If you liked this post please tell me what you think about it, and what are some other ways you are finding working for you.

Take care.

3 Helpful Signs You Need To Look Out For To Spot The People You Should Keep In Your Life.

As you probably know, life is already hard by itself, you surely don’t need a bunch of people who do not serve any purpose and that instead complicate it even further,

That’s how you discern bad people from the good ones:

1) THEY CONTRIBUTE TO YOUR LIFE, AND YOU TO THEIRS

I don’t want to make it sound like all relationships should be give-and-take, but …that’s exactly how I want it to sound.

“But V, you’re a materialistic person!”

Not really,
(And it’s not even give-and-take, but it’s simply what you might call “a true relationship”)


ALL kinds of relationships should be looking to improve with time, a lack of this results in stale, soulless relationships.

You can’t expect to just give OR take.
For a relationship to be successful, a balanced amount of both is what you’re looking for.

For both parties to give and take it’s a must.

It’s what the fertilizer is to the soil.
You can’t expect it to bear fruit if you don’t plant a seed and cultivate it first.

Call me old-fashioned but that’s how true bonds are forged.

You both do SOMETHING to make the other flourish, in this way you let them know with actions, that you really do appreciate their presence in your life.

Words can only go that far.

2) THEY DO NOT BRING TOXICITY .

This is a Huuuge factor.

Very few people in this world can live without bringing others down in any way shape or form.

Toxicity in this case is shown in different ways towards you, these are some of the common traits a toxic person might have:

  1. Jealousy
  2. Envy
  3. Criticism (not the good type, but the one intended to JUST hurt)
  4. Always create drama for little, trivial things.
  5. They act as parasites, leeches.
  6. Act Manipulative.
  7. Talk behind your back.
  8. Lies without reason.
  9. Backstabber.
  10. Coward.

Instead they should:

  1. Root for your success.
  2. Be happy for you.
  3. Give you useful & constructive criticism.
  4. Solve problems you’re both facing with you.
  5. Act as teammates.
  6. Tell you the truth, even if painful.
  7. Stand beside you when shit hits the fan (huge thing)
  8. Behave with honor & integrity.
  9. Respect you.
  10. Not be cowards.

3) THEY FOLLOW UP ON THEIR WORD.

THIS.

This is a mark of a truly great individual if you ask me, because in this day and age words are slowly but surely losing their meaning.

A person who keeps their promises and is faithful to his\her words it’s rare and a sight to behold.

It means that you usually can trust that person with something because you know he\she’ll deliver on their words, and that what comes from their mouths it’s actually VALUABLE and concrete.

It’s someone you can and should have besides you because in this life made up of uncertainties, an accountable person sheds a hopeful light in a sea that’s void of values and filled with nothingness.

Do you think i missed something?
WELL, what are you waiting for, drop your thoughts in the comment!

Are Mentors Really Necessary When it Comes to Your Success?

Mentors.
Masters.
Gurus.
Guides.
Teachers.


Call them however you want, they’re usually the ones who light the way to the clueless you.

They’re a spring of knowledge and wisdom, and for a good reason: They’ve been tested and have been through the battlefield.

And they make your learning journey insightful but by no means easier than it would have been if you were on your own.

But are they REALLY necessary for your success?
The answer is… no.

And i say that because in the end, they’re merely acting as “sharpening stones” if you may,
For you, the raw piece of iron.

But that doesn’t mean that without the sharpening stone the piece of iron is useless.

You get what i’m trying to say?

If the piece of iron is of good quality (If you have good traits that let you thrive on your own) It STILL is an incredible raw material.

Sure, the mentor would surely help you – but at the end of the day, even if you had it, the work still needs to come FROM YOU.

So you can finally see that it’s not really about having someone to guide you, as long as you’re longing and doing everything you can to succeed.

Sometimes you just have to Fall Back.

That doesn’t mean that you have to give up on your mission.

It’s just a tactical retreat.
You might take it as a “loss” in the short-term view of things (and if you’re proud as i am), but it will do more good than bad to whatever you have going on.

It is not cowardly.

In life, whenever we set our eyes on some kind of prize-we tend to engage in autopilot mode, and while that has some advantages, we usually ignore the risk called monotony. We fall prey of certain behavior patterns that aren’t of use anymore even if they were at first.

And these kind of patterns prevents us from going forward. So we need to snap out of that autopilot mode and “pull” ourselves back, re-evaluate our direction and approach the matter in a new, fresh way.

But finding that new approach can be daunting and seem nowhere to be found, it’s a stalemate, an… artist’s block– so to speak.

What to do, then? while i can’t provide an ultimate solution for everything and everyone of you, i think and hope that my friend Marcus Aurelius can give you some inspiration for these dire times of yours:

“Regain your senses, call yourself back, and once again wake up.

Now that you realize that only dreams were troubling you, view this ‘reality’ as you view your dreams.”

And don’t you dare give up, because your dreams are closer than you think.