How Do You Stop Being So Emotional? Ways to Control Your Emotions

Emotions are amazing, I know, but sometimes (most of the time actually) can get in our purpose’s way.

To better manage our life we need to be able to know when to use them and how ( AND IF) to use them.

Let’s see what can you do to blunt the effects of the chaos that are emotions, so you can learn to live without being swayed by them too much.

Emotions are a lifelong journey

While this statement might not be true for all, it’s indisputable that emotions accompany us since the day we’re born. Some handle them better than others of course, but there is ALWAYS a degree of control we can exert on them.

It makes sense since they’re a part of us, and you can make this process easier if you have a stable and strong character on which you can place your emotions.

So we’ve determined that you can control them, even if you’re the most “emotional” of individuals (unless you’re still a freaking kid), but HOW can you avoid letting them control YOU?

Disassociation

This one is tricky, but it’s very effective when used properly. Disassociating with your emotions in a particular moment can be a lifesaver, all you need to do is to “turn the switch off” when a certain emotion arises and STOP acknowledging it.

Especially if you are, for example, in an argument with a person. Think about it, if you don’t switch off your emotions at that time you’ll be between two fires – the person you’re talking to, and your emotions.

And we don’t want that, as that can end up very poorly for you.

Now you’ll be able to make this switch work seamlessly unless you have something that blocks you from doing so, stress is one of those things and can either make or break the attempt of shutting down your emotions in the moment.

If you’re struggling with it do something to decompress from stress.

is there anything else you can do?

Exposing yourself to your emotions

Is another viable road.

By constantly getting accustomed to being in the whirl of your emotions you’ll eventually develop a sort of “immunity” to them. This will result in you being able to push your current threshold to another level, you’ll basically be enlarging your hypothetical emotional cup- so to speak.

This will allow you to bear and endure much longer, and I recommend you to develop a bigger “cup” since you can use it as an extra tool.

Though this approach might be uncomfortable at first, it’s necessary because you’ll get a chance to know yourself and your emotional limits better, and as a byproduct, you’ll be able to have more control over your emotions before they go berserk.

It’s like an additional valve for redirecting the steam, a precautionary measure.

Neat, right?

In the end it doesn’t really matter if you’re “emotional” or whatever the fuck you want to think you are.

Because emotions are real, and as such they can be controlled, and you will be able to control them as much as you’re willing to.

The “hard part” (also called truth) for someone with emotions problems it’s ACKNOWLEDGING that you lack overall self-control over your life in general.

But when you’re at the mercy of your emotions you cannot possibly have any semblance of control.

Take care.

 

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Only you know what is best for Yourself: The reason of holiday depression

As we’re approaching the holidays, a lot of people might go into the “holiday depression” mode. I know this because in the past i experienced it, too. The feeling of not feeling enough, thoughts along these lines: “Oh great, another year is ending and i still haven’t accomplished a fucking thing. Why am i even alive?” I get it, i really do.

I can’t give you a quick fix for this, because in order to be able to feel enough, you have to BE enough. And that doesn’t come automatically like some people want you to believe, it’s the hard cold truth, but it is what it is. And the only way you can ever hope to be enough is to put in the work, in whatever area of your life that is in desperate need of it. There is no way around it.

But that doesn’t mean that any kind of work will do the trick, you have to do the work that YOU think can help you. I’m saying this because maybe, like myself, you come from a very big family where things were forced on you so that you wouldn’t “bring shame” and things like that. And even though they might hammer those things on you without (or with) a bad intention, since that’s how it worked for them they think it’ll work for you, too. They genuinely want to help.

Unfortunately you are not them, and even though going your own way might bring temporary discord and discomfort among you-i can promise that everything will feel so much better afterwards. But you have to find the will to stand up for yourself.

ATTENTION though:

Ultimately, even if that’s the case, you cannot shift the blame on others. So if you really hate your situation and hate this gnawing feeling of being useless weighing on your chest, you have to take responsibility for it and stop avoiding working on yourself, because that is the real issue. And feeling bad about this will not help you in any way, feeling sad during these times will only hinder you, the only thing to do is to accept what your current situation is, and-with a smile- PRESS ONWARD.