How To Smash Through Your Mental & Physical Strength Barriers: The Proven Way

Whether we’re talking about physical appliable pure body strength or even the mental kind, the way to attain it remains the same and ALWAYS work. If you don’t see improvements after staying true to “the way” it just means that you’re doing something wrong or you’re not trying hard enough, period.

What’s “the way” though?

Well, now I don’t want to sound like a Mandalorian but let me show you, my personal way to attain colossal strength BWAHAHA

Let’s stop with the jokes and begin with…

Gauging Your Current Limits

Having a set goal, a milestone to which you can refer to when talking about strength, can greatly aid into making the process smoother. That’s why you need to know to what extent you can push your own body & mind without causing any (permanent) damage.

In this way you’ll be able to give it your all, KNOWING that you’re not resting on laurels- and as a byproduct keeping everything challenging almost to the point of exhaustion, both psychological and physical.

Example time.

Physical realm: One of the things you could do here to test your limits is to challenge your body until you’re basically on the brink of collapse. This will trigger a response which consists in muscle growth, but this is not a secret, bodybuilders have been known to do this since the age of time. An example is to be training to failure for hypertrophy.

So no matter where you are in your fitness journey, you’ll SEE progress (i.e. take squats until complete failure)

But this was an example, because by doing this you can’t actually gauge your limits completely, and it’s not an optimal (but still incredibly viable) way to build every aspect of physical strength either. This will need to include a critical thinking factor to understand where you’re at right now.

Let me show you how.

You can’t do even a single pullup? -> Strengthen your back and upper body by doing less demanding exercises WHILE STILL CHALLENGING YOURSELF TO THE UTMOST.

Can’t do even a single pushup? -> Do as many knee pushups as you can, and work your way towards the full version.

Your diet sucks? -> Change it by slowly implementing more healthy foods in your diet if you can’t “handle” all at once.

Can you see the pattern here?

What all these things have in common is one key thing:

They’re problems that can be solved.

And as such, like I’ve shown you, there’s always something you CAN do so you can advance to the next step.

The subtle Art of Fragmentation

So once you’ve recognized where you’re at with your physical strength you will need to formulate a plan, a series of steps you can take to ADAPT to your current limits, in a way that you will eventually be able to reach your next “sets of limits”.

What l want you to apply to this process is the subtle art of “fragmentation” where you basically break down what is needed from you in order to grow stronger into manageable chunks and tasks.

What, do you really think that you will grow stronger overnight because you’re training “just” your upper body? Think again, it is not JUST the upper body that is being trained (arms, shoulders, chest) these are just the major muscles.

Have you forgotten about the smaller, auxiliary muscles that help you through the motions? I figured so, they get stronger as well but you just don’t see it. You take them for granted but they’re actually being developed as well, and without them you wouldn’t be able to perform your exercises to the best.

See? another pattern here.

What I’m saying is that you cannot leave anything to chance, when there are so many details for you to take into consideration. Because it’s not just “YOU” that is getting stronger, it’s ALL OF YOU.

That’s why a scattered approach will not work. Focus on a few things at a time instead:

  • Number of reps you can manage.
  • Correct form.
  • Range of motion.
  • Heavy loads.
  • Flexiblity.
  • Explosiveness.
  • Stamina.

These are just some examples you can tap into to take ideas and inspiration, but you get what I’m saying.

Strength IS NOT LINEAR, there are multiple facets of it, that needs to be trained and analyzed to your specific needs and current limitations. Be smart about it.

Emotional\Psychological Realm: 

Everything I’ve talked about of physical strength can of course be applied to this side of the spectrum as well.

The same repetitive, detail-oriented component works just as fine when you’re talking about mental toughness, as long as you apply it.

Afraid or anxious about (big) social interactions? -> Talk to 1 person a day (outside of your comfort zone) that is SURE to make you anxious, I don’t know, a hot girl for example.

You let your rage take over you easily? -> Be in a position in which you can “taste” small bits of rage without actually getting out of control, almost like poison immunity in which a person is constantly exposed to small amount of toxins so that his body will gradually develop the antibodies needed to contrast the toxin.

The goal here is NOT poisoning yourself during the process though, that’s harmful.

Instead, is to be able to practice in a SAFE environment to the cusp of said limit. You’ll be incredibly uncomfortable, and you’ll take hard blows, but they’ll be lightly softened so you can be ready for the real thing.

And your body and mind will slowly adapt, since humans are ADAPTING MACHINES.

Breaking Your Limits

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This should be the last item on your list, since it’s one of the things you’ll face ONLY in “the end” process, close to mastery of strength.

Unlike some people that depict this in a romantic way: *Put inspirational quote about limits & motivation here* , learning to actually break your limits is real nasty work and it’s usually not what you think it is…but this is a topic for another time.

What you need to know today about this, in a way you can exploit it to your advantage, is that you can use the “limit” excuse, to keep probing and extending your overall emotional\physical strength container. And that is because in this journey you’ll be nowhere near to even be touching your limits.

So you can use this, again, as an excuse to keep that challenge (whether emotional or physical) that I was talking about, always grueling.

You see, limits are 99% of the time self-imposed. So you’re not really “breaking your limits” how it is commonly intended, you’re merely removing shackles you had on.

Breaking limits involves EVOLUTION, not casting away weights that you no longer need, which is just liberation. They’re 2 different paths you’ll eventually take.

There is just SO much to talk about strength, plateaus and how to overcome them, but I hope that with this article you’ve got that faint hint I was trying to subconsciously send to you.

 

If you’d like me to expand more on something specific you’ve seen here or on something similar, or this has helped you in any way, drop me a comment and share this post with your friends.

 

Photo by Shazia Mirza on Unsplash

 

How To Deal With Failures And The Unexpected: Making The Most Out Of Success During Tough Times.

This is a more introspective post that hopefully can give you more insight on how to deal with failure and its consequential (awful) feelings- if you’re in that stage. Read on, discouraged bucko!

Now, i don’t want to make this look extreme, but…

I AM Failure incarnated.

And that’s a disclaimer on why YOU shouldn’t beat up yourself too much because of whatever happened to you.

And before i give you practical stuff on how to handle this gnawing and self-blaming feeling, let me show you why i say I AM FAILURE (By society’s standards, at least) so you know a little bit more about good ol’ mysterious me too.

  • Never finished school and was considered a black sheep by everyone (Yes even family) around me.
  • Countless jobs to which i applied to- shot me down.
  • When i saved up money to attend my dream academy, for my dream carreer (A game-development one) I was up to the task JUST BARELY, but i stopped because i felt i couldn’t keep up with the 2nd year. = Wasted (but not really) time, energy and money.

And i could list another 20 things plus more hard personal stuff i was going through. But i don’t want to make this post about ME.

But about YOU.
But first, how did i reacted to all of this?

Did i break down at some point? yes.
Did i cry? …probably. (keeping it vague for the sake of my manliness)
Did i ever feel like i was not enough? you bet.
Did i ever got help of any kind from anyone? hell fucking NO

But even in the hopeless state of mind in which i was (and believe me- times were really hopeless), my spark, in the end, never went out.

Why?
Because, at some point, my whole being came to a realization.

The failures i’ve experienced and i’m still experiencing DO NOT define me.

Instead, they polish me, they are a test from life to see if i’m FIT to reach my dreams. And that is TRUE FOR YOU, TOO.

Take this analogy as an example:

Do you know how a Blacksmith forges a Sword?

By POUNDING it, over and over again – to get rid of all impurities,
So that in the end the sword becomes sharp, and serves a Purpose.

It’s useless as a mere piece of Iron.

And That’s HOW it works when you’re trying to build yourself.

You NEED to be clobbered, in this case, by life.

Thorin knows, too.

And trust me,
I know.

The feelings that come after failing so many times are unbearable and can take a heavy toll on your mind, body and spirit.

You start questioning yourself, your abilities, your whole point when it comes to your existence.

Now, this might sound clichè- and i think it is- but it’s a very good way of seeing things:

Use your failures as stepping stones.

But careful, i’m not saying that failing it’s everything you should do, like failure, success is also a Teacher.

Although you can’t really control it, you should get your lessons from both your failures AND successes.

They both teach you something different.

When you fail,

reflect on your failures, don’t discount them.
I said reflect, not mourn over them.

Learn something from them, what is it that you could have done differently? Take notes. Be active. Re-build your strategy. Don’t feel defeated.

When you succeed,
Also take notes.
Why is it that i have succeded this time?
How can i replicate this, in an even better way next time?

Don’t be complacent when you do succeed.

ALWAYS do better. Both in defeat & victory.

But… what about regret, you say?

Regret shouldn’t really have a place in your heart. Because unlike failures, regret actually STOPS you in your tracks.

Failures make you evolve,
Regret makes you complacent, and devolve, even.

It’s the thing that WON’T let you move forward.
A useless feeling,
A trickster,
A plague,
Death.

Regret must be replaced with something that shines, something pure… like Resolve.

Its complete opposite.

As soon as possible.

Because regret only comes when you’ve accepted failures and defeat as your way of living.
That is why you have the DUTY to avoid going down to that path.

For that path is dark, muddy and filled with desperation and decay.

You owe it to your success, to your happiness, and ultimately- to your life.

If you’ve enjoyed this post and you have any questions i can answer, please like it and comment down below. I’d be happy to help to the best of my abilities.

You can even contact me on Twitter: https://twitter.com/Mirainovi

And as always,
Take care.

Don’t You Lose Your Spark, And Your Will To Live.

This is a shorter, yet “more inspired” heartfelt, post.

This post is for everyone who is currently facing despair in their life.

Whether that might be for money, health, or hardships in general.
You need to understand that you’re a result of millions of years of evolution.

You’re THE HOPE of your ancestors, even if that might not be of much importance in today’s society.

Understand that you either face and overcome life’s adversities or you die because of them.
Become the pillar of light that brings certainty into your loved ones life.

Even if you are dying inside. Even if you’re breaking down. Even if everything seems hopeless.

Persevere.

Don’t give in.

Shine the most amazing qualities a human being can have,
It will EVENTUALLY outweigh the bad.

Only you know what is best for Yourself: The reason of holiday depression

As we’re approaching the holidays, a lot of people might go into the “holiday depression” mode. I know this because in the past i experienced it, too. The feeling of not feeling enough, thoughts along these lines: “Oh great, another year is ending and i still haven’t accomplished a fucking thing. Why am i even alive?” I get it, i really do.

I can’t give you a quick fix for this, because in order to be able to feel enough, you have to BE enough. And that doesn’t come automatically like some people want you to believe, it’s the hard cold truth, but it is what it is. And the only way you can ever hope to be enough is to put in the work, in whatever area of your life that is in desperate need of it. There is no way around it.

But that doesn’t mean that any kind of work will do the trick, you have to do the work that YOU think can help you. I’m saying this because maybe, like myself, you come from a very big family where things were forced on you so that you wouldn’t “bring shame” and things like that. And even though they might hammer those things on you without (or with) a bad intention, since that’s how it worked for them they think it’ll work for you, too. They genuinely want to help.

Unfortunately you are not them, and even though going your own way might bring temporary discord and discomfort among you-i can promise that everything will feel so much better afterwards. But you have to find the will to stand up for yourself.

ATTENTION though:

Ultimately, even if that’s the case, you cannot shift the blame on others. So if you really hate your situation and hate this gnawing feeling of being useless weighing on your chest, you have to take responsibility for it and stop avoiding working on yourself, because that is the real issue. And feeling bad about this will not help you in any way, feeling sad during these times will only hinder you, the only thing to do is to accept what your current situation is, and-with a smile- PRESS ONWARD.

HOW TO DEAL WITH COPYCATS: THE QUICK WAY

Aaaaah…copycats. Aren’t they lovely? at least once in life everyone had one on their necks…may it be for something “lighter” like copying your style and how you speak, or something “heavy” like full-on copying your personality and way of life. Maybe some of you STILL have one that’s bothering you and can’t seem to shake off no matter how much time passes. Worry not, i’m going to explain you why you needn’t worry about them.

Let’s start by saying that usually, copycats that “matters” are somewhat close to you, they’re usually friends and family but they can even be simple acquaintances. What the copycat is doing is trying to get an overall idea of what you’re doing so he\she can copy you…exactly, they don’t even bother digging in. After all the only thing they care about is to APPEAR as good as you, when in reality they’re not. That’s why usually their facades tend to last a little while. This is the standard copycat. Just forget about him\her and go on with your life (this remains true even with business copycats), this kind of copycat will have a “short life”, just wait and see.

Then there’s another form of copycat that it’s a little more extreme and it’s actually very annoying and can be frustrating to have around. This one will be probably someone very close to you like a friend – and they usually use the deep bond they’ve formed with you to get to know you better so they can pull off a well crafted act. At first this person may look like he\she’s admiring you or really likes you when in reality it’s just trying to mimic you because of a simple fact:

These people LACK personality.
And that’s why you shouldn’t be concerned.

Because after a while, people around them (and you) will start noticing this, too!

I know, it’s frustrating at first, but see it like this – they decided to copy you in the first place because you are original and unique! it’s not like they can reproduce your awesomeness just by a mere act, originality it’s something that CANNOT BE COPIED. THAT’S WHY IT’S CALLED LIKE THIS. No matter how hard they try, they’ll look like fools.

Just distance yourself from these people and keep on doing you. You’ll forget them in a matter of hours! you have to be ruthless with the distancing though, the more reason to do so in the case of a family member doing this. You HAVE to make them feel like something’s not right – and that they will gain nothing by trying to emulate your persona.

Because in the end the only people that are TRULY appreciated are the ones that can stay true to themselves and don’t have the need to be someone else to be accepted.