What’s Impossible? The Lies YOU Tell Yourself.

I have a little piece of paper that I’ve cut out from a dictionary and attached to my monitor with the word “Impossible” on it.

I’ve always hated this word since it filled me with a feeling of uneasiness. Something that can’t be done, no matter how hard I try I will fail, so why bother in the first place?

“What the fuck!”  I thought.  “This is not right, I should be able to make of my life whatever the hell I want!”

But not everything is possible, right? hence the word impossible. Well, no, not even close.

You see, when I was cutting off that word from the dictionary it felt like taking the very meaning of impossible and removing it from my (mental) dictionary. Why should someone, why should YOU live this life with such a limiting word in your head?

It’s crazy to even think about that word when you just have this life at your disposal.

But I know that this is not the only thing that is stopping you from realizing your dreams. There IS something else:

Your abhorrence towards Hard Work

When it comes to realizing something hard and worthwhile, the people who use the word “Impossible” are usually the ones who don’t succeed, and they have 2 things in common:

  1. They DESPISE working hard.
  2. They LOVE daydreaming. (which would’ve been fine if only they didn’t despise hard-work)

But the Impossible thing about this all, it’s not even the word itself.

It’s the mindset you have, the “Impossibility Mindset” that you have engrained into the depths of your psyche, that is stopping you from even REMOTELY considering the thought that maybe, you can really do what you want to do.

But no.

You’re programmed by society’s standards of what is possible and what’s not. Your friends, family and loved ones all say so, to leave it be, that is not realistic.

But at some point in time you REALLY believed it was possible, right? that just means that the thought of it being impossible it’s not yours, after all. Is something you picked up while cruising through life and that just happened to set itself in stone because of some failures you experienced…

BUT IT DOESN’T HAVE TO BE YOUR REALITY.

The process behind this is simple, but overcomplicated:

  • Reject the impossibility of whatever you’re after, along with the word “Impossible”.
  • Understand that “Impossible” is just an inflated, enormous and misused word for something that did not took place YET.
  • Work so hard and smart until your goals are finally reality.

Exactly like I did, You too can remove the very meaning of that word from your life if you’re willing to decide so and reject the common standards that are forced onto you.

Take care,

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How Do You Stop Being So Emotional? Ways to Control Your Emotions

Emotions are amazing, I know, but sometimes (most of the time actually) can get in our purpose’s way.

To better manage our life we need to be able to know when to use them and how ( AND IF) to use them.

Let’s see what can you do to blunt the effects of the chaos that are emotions, so you can learn to live without being swayed by them too much.

Emotions are a lifelong journey

While this statement might not be true for all, it’s indisputable that emotions accompany us since the day we’re born. Some handle them better than others of course, but there is ALWAYS a degree of control we can exert on them.

It makes sense since they’re a part of us, and you can make this process easier if you have a stable and strong character on which you can place your emotions.

So we’ve determined that you can control them, even if you’re the most “emotional” of individuals (unless you’re still a freaking kid), but HOW can you avoid letting them control YOU?

Disassociation

This one is tricky, but it’s very effective when used properly. Disassociating with your emotions in a particular moment can be a lifesaver, all you need to do is to “turn the switch off” when a certain emotion arises and STOP acknowledging it.

Especially if you are, for example, in an argument with a person. Think about it, if you don’t switch off your emotions at that time you’ll be between two fires – the person you’re talking to, and your emotions.

And we don’t want that, as that can end up very poorly for you.

Now you’ll be able to make this switch work seamlessly unless you have something that blocks you from doing so, stress is one of those things and can either make or break the attempt of shutting down your emotions in the moment.

If you’re struggling with it do something to decompress from stress.

is there anything else you can do?

Exposing yourself to your emotions

Is another viable road.

By constantly getting accustomed to being in the whirl of your emotions you’ll eventually develop a sort of “immunity” to them. This will result in you being able to push your current threshold to another level, you’ll basically be enlarging your hypothetical emotional cup- so to speak.

This will allow you to bear and endure much longer, and I recommend you to develop a bigger “cup” since you can use it as an extra tool.

Though this approach might be uncomfortable at first, it’s necessary because you’ll get a chance to know yourself and your emotional limits better, and as a byproduct, you’ll be able to have more control over your emotions before they go berserk.

It’s like an additional valve for redirecting the steam, a precautionary measure.

Neat, right?

In the end it doesn’t really matter if you’re “emotional” or whatever the fuck you want to think you are.

Because emotions are real, and as such they can be controlled, and you will be able to control them as much as you’re willing to.

The “hard part” (also called truth) for someone with emotions problems it’s ACKNOWLEDGING that you lack overall self-control over your life in general.

But when you’re at the mercy of your emotions you cannot possibly have any semblance of control.

Take care.

 

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How Masculinity Can Drastically Improve Your Life

As you may or may not know by now, I’m a huge “advocate” when it comes to re-instilling masculinity into today’s… men, since they seem to have more feminine traits as the days go by, and that’s disturbing.

You can see why I view Masculinity As A positive Force here.

But today I’ll be telling you HOW your life can get better by applying masculinity to it, let’s see some of the reasons:

1) Improve Your Relationships

Exactly.

As you grow into a more masculine man, your good relationships will flourish, while the bad ones will wither and fall away.

The reason for that is that by becoming more masculine you will naturally acquire traits that are deemed as powerful– by the good kind of people around you – while the bad ones will just feel “threatened” by those traits.

And you don’t need me to tell you that you need empowering people in your life, not envious little pricks.

In this way, your already strong relationships will become even stronger because they now see you as a man worthy of trust and respect, who cares about himself and the values he holds, while the bad ones will attack you for being “over the top” or “different”,

Because they have nothing they will STAND UP for.

It’s all a balancing act, really.
Ditch that kind of company.

 

2) Makes You Action-Oriented

Now, this shouldn’t come as a surprise because masculine men throughout history have been known to NOT sit on laurels, take as an example heroes, emperors, warriors, men of knowledge, but even the most normal of men, like a simple farmer, a worker, a factory owner, a baker… you name it.

But they all had one thing in common: they were focused on DOING THINGS.

Today the average man is dead in the eyes, crushed by his insecurities and his lack of confidence & ambition or even a semblance of a SPARK in his heart, drooling over a screen and UNFIT for reality,

Depressed.

Make yours the qualities of the Men Of The Past instead (see stoicism for example), where even the average man was extraordinary.

3) Feel More Grounded

Masculinity in itself is a grounding force.

It’s no mystery that women are attracted to it when they search for the ideal partner, since women look out for a stable, solid man as support.

So, as a masculine man, you can be sure to have something sturdy on which to base your life upon, and that’s because masculinity naturally gives you a skillset-so to speak- that enables you to be prepared to face any adversity:

  • Bravery
  • Resilience
  • Strength
  • Willpower

And the list goes on…

These are all powerful traits that usually come with a masculine man and they act in coordination to help the man navigate through life with clarity, without being swayed as much.

Being grounded in your masculinity also means that you know where to look out for in times of need, it means that you remember your roots and remain faithful to them so you can find MEANING in your existence as a man,

So that you remember what made you what you are today.


 

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Positivity Is Slowly Killing You

Why are you doing this to you? Why are you doing this to your life, first and foremost?

Especially during these proving times there are people that have the courage to tell you that you should “take it easy” , “take your time and cope with the stress”…

“Relax”..

Why do you keep on listening to them?

I say : fuck that.

Pardon my language or not, i don’t care, BUT… do you really think that is the case to follow that lighthearted advice?

We’re in the middle of one of the most crazy crisis the world has ever known…and you heed the words of a random snowflake telling you that is “OK” to relax?

Really?

Why aren’t you improving yourself instead with all this time on your hands? THAT’S WHAT YOU SHOULD BE DOING.

Improving your flaws.

Improving your body.

Your finances.

Your life.

Don’t fall prey to this “fake” positivity stuff.
It’s damaging.

They’re telling you this because they probably have nothing going on in their lives as well.

They’re basically telling you that is ok to waste countless hours watching Netflix and playing videogames while the world is going to hell.

Yeah because being prepared to face life and uncomfortable situations is too big of a hassle, better wait until things are on your doorstep and it’s too late to do anything, while depression cripples on you.

Right?

Useless.

I’ve always hated this fake positivity that some people so desperately try to force on themselves and others, because it clouds people’s judgement in favor of a nonexistent and “avoid-all-problems” mindset.

Your problems are not going away with positivity and kind words.

But they won’t tell you that.

Why?

You see,
It doesn’t benefit to their persona, their following.

Yet you fall for their honey words, why?

I DARE YOU tell me that i’m wrong, when i’m just laying out the truth in front of your eyes.

“Let me tell you something you already know. The world ain’t all sunshine and rainbows. It’s a very mean and nasty place and I don’t care how tough you are it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain’t about how hard ya hit. It’s about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward. How much you can take and keep moving forward. That’s how winning is done! Now if you know what you’re worth then go out and get what you’re worth. But ya gotta be willing to take the hits, and not pointing fingers saying you ain’t where you wanna be because of him, or her, or anybody! Cowards do that and that ain’t you! You’re better than that!”

-Rocky Balboa

I think you know where that line is from, don’t you?

It pretty much sums up what i feel, and why i think a positive mindset is good to have ONLY if you are willing NOT to ignore and sweep your flaws and problems under the rug with the excuse of being “positive”.

It’s time for you to start thinking AND feeling for yourself, stop being a god damn puppet.

That’s all I wanted to say.

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Take care.

3 Helpful Signs You Need To Look Out For To Spot The People You Should Keep In Your Life.

As you probably know, life is already hard by itself, you surely don’t need a bunch of people who do not serve any purpose and that instead complicate it even further,

That’s how you discern bad people from the good ones:

1) THEY CONTRIBUTE TO YOUR LIFE, AND YOU TO THEIRS

I don’t want to make it sound like all relationships should be give-and-take, but …that’s exactly how I want it to sound.

“But V, you’re a materialistic person!”

Not really,
(And it’s not even give-and-take, but it’s simply what you might call “a true relationship”)


ALL kinds of relationships should be looking to improve with time, a lack of this results in stale, soulless relationships.

You can’t expect to just give OR take.
For a relationship to be successful, a balanced amount of both is what you’re looking for.

For both parties to give and take it’s a must.

It’s what the fertilizer is to the soil.
You can’t expect it to bear fruit if you don’t plant a seed and cultivate it first.

Call me old-fashioned but that’s how true bonds are forged.

You both do SOMETHING to make the other flourish, in this way you let them know with actions, that you really do appreciate their presence in your life.

Words can only go that far.

2) THEY DO NOT BRING TOXICITY .

This is a Huuuge factor.

Very few people in this world can live without bringing others down in any way shape or form.

Toxicity in this case is shown in different ways towards you, these are some of the common traits a toxic person might have:

  1. Jealousy
  2. Envy
  3. Criticism (not the good type, but the one intended to JUST hurt)
  4. Always create drama for little, trivial things.
  5. They act as parasites, leeches.
  6. Act Manipulative.
  7. Talk behind your back.
  8. Lies without reason.
  9. Backstabber.
  10. Coward.

Instead they should:

  1. Root for your success.
  2. Be happy for you.
  3. Give you useful & constructive criticism.
  4. Solve problems you’re both facing with you.
  5. Act as teammates.
  6. Tell you the truth, even if painful.
  7. Stand beside you when shit hits the fan (huge thing)
  8. Behave with honor & integrity.
  9. Respect you.
  10. Not be cowards.

3) THEY FOLLOW UP ON THEIR WORD.

THIS.

This is a mark of a truly great individual if you ask me, because in this day and age words are slowly but surely losing their meaning.

A person who keeps their promises and is faithful to his\her words it’s rare and a sight to behold.

It means that you usually can trust that person with something because you know he\she’ll deliver on their words, and that what comes from their mouths it’s actually VALUABLE and concrete.

It’s someone you can and should have besides you because in this life made up of uncertainties, an accountable person sheds a hopeful light in a sea that’s void of values and filled with nothingness.

Do you think i missed something?
WELL, what are you waiting for, drop your thoughts in the comment!