Masculinity As A Positive Force.

A person whom i admire very much, Bruce Lee, it’s linked to today’s topic and i thought mentioning him was a thing it felt right.

Bruce, in my book – is a perfect example of Masculinity : He was an overall achiever, he had objectives on which he never gave up (The acting career) and he was, and probably still is the greatest Martial Artist the world has ever known.

Masculinity today, at times it’s seen like a (and let me put emphasis on the quotes) “”Toxic”” trait.

I completely disagree with that, as it is something that’s intrinsic to the very nature of a man, how can something we’re born with be toxic?

And apart from that, masculinity is a strong and positive force, Men’s situation are changed because of it, are inspired to do good because of it, they take ACTION to better their (and other’s!) life because of it.

Here’s a video that explains it in a very good way – it’s a short video but it’s full of meaning when confronted with a lot of stupid nonsense some people are spouting nowadays. Watch it if you have time:

Now, why do i associate masculinity with Bruce Lee? well, i think that when a Man rises against all odds to realize something that’s really dear to his heart- that’s when he really shines.

And that’s exactly what Bruce did.

Bruce was the “peak of human strength and performance”, but he didn’t accomplish all of this overnight, of course – behind his success there’s a tortuous and long process that was necessary for achieving his strength.

While he enjoyed to stay in (stellar) shape but more importantly to Fight, in this way he wanted to show others (but first and foremost he did this for himself, to better his abilities) that he was the best – you know, some good competition that gave as a fruit the obvious, sought after byproduct of Mastery.

And here comes the good part :

But why does a man put himself into so much trouble to accomplish something? you’d think it’s just to satisfy himself right?

Yes…
BUT NO.

While Martial arts can be seen as destructive, it teaches men (and Women, even though these tendencies are more prominent in Men) not to just “be stronger” which in itself is a byproduct – but to Protect something, someone, dear to them.


The rising of certain characteristics such as Heroism, Selflessness, Sacrifice, Kindness, Relentlessness – always spurs because of a greater reason that you can’t see on the surface, martial arts it’s just an example very dear to me, but there are countless different situations – as you’ve seen in the video – where masculinity can be applied to.

In the end, masculinity shouldn’t be overwhelmed with attacks that won’t really go anywhere, as it’s not synonym of violence, as some degenerates love to claim.

Like femininity, masculinity it’s simply a collection of traits found since the birth of human beings, into men.

For both sexes not to express themselves like nature programmed them to, it’s foolish and unnatural, and what REALLY should be “condemned” it’s the toxicity of an individual itself.

No one, I repeat : NO ONE should be attacked and belittled for expressing these beautiful qualities that makes humanity – Human.

Have a great day!
Take care.

Appereance Matters For Your Success, See Why.

“Never judge a book by its cover”

That’s how the saying goes, right?

Well, this is half true – in fact, when first meeting someone it’s completely OK to guess some things here and there, but how’s this related to your success? let’s take a look.

Thing is, the first impression you have on someone hugely impacts how they’re going to perceive you afterwards. Let’s take the example of a business meeting: If you made sure to leave a good impression beforehand, you can be sure that the rest of the meeting will go much smoother than it would’ve gone if you hadn’t taken that “countermeasure”.

The reason is because your appearance says A LOT about you.

  • How do you carry yourself?: How’s your posture, straight and confident, or weak and twitchy? do you walk like you mean it, or are you crawling like a worm? is your head high and your eyes full of fire, or you always keep your head down?
  • The way you speak: Sounding confident when speaking it’s key. If you don’t believe in what you’re saying, how are others supposed to take you seriously? when you talk it feels like you’re whispering? welp, don’t do that – make yourself heard! now, don’t go screaming because it’s bad manners and it’s unsightly – keep a constant and pleasant tone. Don’t stutter while talking, being fluent and slick gives you more credibility and overall it’s nice and soothing to hear someone who can talk.
  • Your Self esteem: Do you take yourself too seriously like you’re some kind of deity, or make a fool out of yourself whenever the chance is presented to you? DON’T. You must inspire admiration while being able to laugh at yourself from time to time. Remember, if you don’t respect yourself others won’t follow suit.
  • How you dress yourself: Of course, dressing like some kind of bum won’t cut it. Again, if you want others to love you as much as you do – you have to make the effort to make them see how much you love yourself. Dress to impress! that doesn’t mean you have to wear tailored suits every day and pay hundreds of dollars for your clothes. Of course you can play the cheap card, it doesn’t matter if your shoes are worth 1000$ or 5$ – you can impress even if you don’t have money for fancy stuff. Be sure to wear clean and fresh clothes with no wrinkles – groom yourself if you’re a man, cut your hair and keep up good personal hygiene! it’ll make you stand out from others.

What about what’s inside though? 😦

Of course, in the end it doesn’t matter if outside you’re a “looker” and inside you’re empty as the pot i used to make homemade curry last night.

Being a wholesome human being (of course) comes before all of this – having an identity, values you treasure and things you’ll stand up for, what i want you to understand is that…

sometimes in life a good impression can make a huge difference in the outcome of your success, because people are inherently looking for all these little traits that define a great individual you would do business or start some sort of relationship with.

The Importance Of Discipline + A Little Update

*little update*
Hello there!

I hope you are doing well, i’m just writing this post as some kind of catch-up caused by some troublesome and hectic weeks. I’ve been busy cooking some exciting stuff (for me, at least!) and doing my usual work\homework…yup, because you never stop learning! these business ventures i’m getting into are scarce with results and incredibly slow…but hey, like in fitness or in whatever area that takes time to let you see some results you just have to keep at it.

The world hasn’t been build by doing nothing, now, has it? ;D

BUT ENOUGH WITH ME, LET’S GET TO THE FUN PART!
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Discipline.

Thing’s simple: You either want to have it or not. It is not up to debate that having it while struggling to reach your goals will radically improve your chances of succeeding. YET a lot of people seem to discount it, and seeing the ones who do engage in having this quality as “up-tight” and “no fun”. That’s because they don’t know what they’re talking about, and they’re usually the same kind of people that have a job they hate and family\relationship problems who’d rather spend their weekends getting wasted with their buddies instead of putting in some meaningful work in to CHANGE their colorless lives.

Don’t get me wrong, i’m all in for some beer once in a while – but the thing i can’t condone is… making it a ritual, a recurrent thing.

Like, really? Don’t you have anything better to do instead of destroying your livers and gossip about others (or even among themselves!) about how Christine cheated on Larry? damn you’re boring.

I understand.
I really do.
“But then i’d become a freak without social life!”
Nope. I didn’t say you needed to become an a-hole – what i mean is :

BE IRREMOVABLE WHEN IT COMES TO THE THINGS YOU’RE WORKING ON AND CARE ABOUT.

That’ll be the exact point where your life will take a turn, and you will see results without a doubt. Why?
Because you was laser-focused all this time and didn’t budge or stray off your path.

If you want me to go deeper on this topic and explain to you how to effectively apply discipline to your everyday tasks in a way that YOU TOO can reach your goals, leave a comment below.

And as always,

Take care.

-V

CAN YOU RELY ON MOTIVATION TO SUCCEED?

While i think that motivation is indeed valuable when it comes to succeeding in your endeavors , i think it’s an overrated force to rely on constantly since it fluctuates A LOT, it’s feeble. Sometimes you just have to soldier through…but let me give you some advice on what you can use instead.

Let’s begin.

1)THE WILL TO DO GOOD
Kindness and selflessness it’s something you can use to achieve your goals, people blindly follows someone who practice these things…because they’re inspiring and are a positive force overall. With these qualities you will build an incredible and faithful FOLLOWING – that can help you eventually to achieve whatever you want, remember… there is power in numbers. but even more power in quality numbers.

2)THE NEED TO CHANGE
Sometimes the most basic impulse or need it’s what does the trick. In this case, the urgency emerging from you really wanting to change yourself is the key. Saying: “STOP! I’ll get this over with” and remaining truthful and accountable to yourself or others on the words you’ve spoken might be what you need.

These are all good and useful mindsets to approach success with…but…

What about…

3) HATRED & RAGE
That’s right. What? you’re offended? what? you think nothing good can come out of these two emotions?

Well you’re fucking wrong.

While i agree on the fact that these emotions are negative and can be an overwhelming destructive force, you need to understand that are STILL, just emotions, And as such they can be harnessed, controlled and used as a fuel, converting them in an instead overwhelming and in my opinion unparalleled constructive power.

Think about it.

What if when your girlfriend cheated on you, instead of using all that hate and sadness to blame her and yourself while drinking your soul out you used them to get in shape, take the next daring step in your career or whatever? Feel those powerful emotions and use them to your own gain, they’re ENERGY, you can redirect them – it’s up to you to convert these raw emotions into something good, you’re the pipe through which eventually these will pass from, so why wouldn’t you be able to control the output of it?

TRY IT, the next time you’ll be overtaken by these feelings and you will be unstoppable.

But be careful, this 3rd method it’s not easy to pull off (while still completely doable) because it could backfire and consume you as these emotions, as i’ve already stated, are very strong – so it’s ultimately up to you to decide if you can do it. If unsure, go for the first two- are safer and they might take longer, but they’re worth the effort.

Let me know what’s your take on this.

Take care,

-V