What’s Impossible? The Lies YOU Tell Yourself.

I have a little piece of paper that I’ve cut out from a dictionary and attached to my monitor with the word “Impossible” on it.

I’ve always hated this word since it filled me with a feeling of uneasiness. Something that can’t be done, no matter how hard I try I will fail, so why bother in the first place?

“What the fuck!”  I thought.  “This is not right, I should be able to make of my life whatever the hell I want!”

But not everything is possible, right? hence the word impossible. Well, no, not even close.

You see, when I was cutting off that word from the dictionary it felt like taking the very meaning of impossible and removing it from my (mental) dictionary. Why should someone, why should YOU live this life with such a limiting word in your head?

It’s crazy to even think about that word when you just have this life at your disposal.

But I know that this is not the only thing that is stopping you from realizing your dreams. There IS something else:

Your abhorrence towards Hard Work

When it comes to realizing something hard and worthwhile, the people who use the word “Impossible” are usually the ones who don’t succeed, and they have 2 things in common:

  1. They DESPISE working hard.
  2. They LOVE daydreaming. (which would’ve been fine if only they didn’t despise hard-work)

But the Impossible thing about this all, it’s not even the word itself.

It’s the mindset you have, the “Impossibility Mindset” that you have engrained into the depths of your psyche, that is stopping you from even REMOTELY considering the thought that maybe, you can really do what you want to do.

But no.

You’re programmed by society’s standards of what is possible and what’s not. Your friends, family and loved ones all say so, to leave it be, that is not realistic.

But at some point in time you REALLY believed it was possible, right? that just means that the thought of it being impossible it’s not yours, after all. Is something you picked up while cruising through life and that just happened to set itself in stone because of some failures you experienced…

BUT IT DOESN’T HAVE TO BE YOUR REALITY.

The process behind this is simple, but overcomplicated:

  • Reject the impossibility of whatever you’re after, along with the word “Impossible”.
  • Understand that “Impossible” is just an inflated, enormous and misused word for something that did not took place YET.
  • Work so hard and smart until your goals are finally reality.

Exactly like I did, You too can remove the very meaning of that word from your life if you’re willing to decide so and reject the common standards that are forced onto you.

Take care,

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How Do You Stop Being So Emotional? Ways to Control Your Emotions

Emotions are amazing, I know, but sometimes (most of the time actually) can get in our purpose’s way.

To better manage our life we need to be able to know when to use them and how ( AND IF) to use them.

Let’s see what can you do to blunt the effects of the chaos that are emotions, so you can learn to live without being swayed by them too much.

Emotions are a lifelong journey

While this statement might not be true for all, it’s indisputable that emotions accompany us since the day we’re born. Some handle them better than others of course, but there is ALWAYS a degree of control we can exert on them.

It makes sense since they’re a part of us, and you can make this process easier if you have a stable and strong character on which you can place your emotions.

So we’ve determined that you can control them, even if you’re the most “emotional” of individuals (unless you’re still a freaking kid), but HOW can you avoid letting them control YOU?

Disassociation

This one is tricky, but it’s very effective when used properly. Disassociating with your emotions in a particular moment can be a lifesaver, all you need to do is to “turn the switch off” when a certain emotion arises and STOP acknowledging it.

Especially if you are, for example, in an argument with a person. Think about it, if you don’t switch off your emotions at that time you’ll be between two fires – the person you’re talking to, and your emotions.

And we don’t want that, as that can end up very poorly for you.

Now you’ll be able to make this switch work seamlessly unless you have something that blocks you from doing so, stress is one of those things and can either make or break the attempt of shutting down your emotions in the moment.

If you’re struggling with it do something to decompress from stress.

is there anything else you can do?

Exposing yourself to your emotions

Is another viable road.

By constantly getting accustomed to being in the whirl of your emotions you’ll eventually develop a sort of “immunity” to them. This will result in you being able to push your current threshold to another level, you’ll basically be enlarging your hypothetical emotional cup- so to speak.

This will allow you to bear and endure much longer, and I recommend you to develop a bigger “cup” since you can use it as an extra tool.

Though this approach might be uncomfortable at first, it’s necessary because you’ll get a chance to know yourself and your emotional limits better, and as a byproduct, you’ll be able to have more control over your emotions before they go berserk.

It’s like an additional valve for redirecting the steam, a precautionary measure.

Neat, right?

In the end it doesn’t really matter if you’re “emotional” or whatever the fuck you want to think you are.

Because emotions are real, and as such they can be controlled, and you will be able to control them as much as you’re willing to.

The “hard part” (also called truth) for someone with emotions problems it’s ACKNOWLEDGING that you lack overall self-control over your life in general.

But when you’re at the mercy of your emotions you cannot possibly have any semblance of control.

Take care.

 

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These 2 Overlooked Things Are Stopping You From Reaching Your True Potential, HURRY Before It’s Too Late.

ONE.

Your self-limiting beliefs that you have carried throughout all your life.

You need to break off those shackles, thoughts like: “I can’t do this”, “That’s just how life is”, “Others have it better”, “Oh, they were just lucky, i have bad luck” NEED TO GO.

REALIZE THAT YOUR SITUATION IS YOUR FAULT.
NOT THE GOVERNMENT’S, NOT SOCIETY’S, NOT ANYONE ELSE’S.

TWO.

Your Past.

Whatever might have happened, realize that YOU ARE NOT DEFINED BY YOUR PAST EXPERIENCES.

You can change.
You can bury the past.
You can build a better future.

Remember that as humans we need to keep changing, be adaptable – without letting life weigh on us.