This is going to be a quickfire discussion, however, I want You to tell me what you think about this topic. So be sure to comment, so we can start something interesting. 😀
Let’s get straight to the point.
This first set of images from oldER mangas clearly gives their protagonists a strong, sharp masculine look, accompanied by an amazing set of muscles and a “decisive stare” highlighting drive and STRENGTH of character, followed by a squared jawline.
This was the ideal image of what a masculine man would’ve been like back in the day when it comes to the Japanese mangas standards.
Jotaro Kujo, from JoJo’s Bizarre Adventure
Ippo Makunouchi, from Hajime No Ippo
Goku, From Dragonball
Kenshiro, from Fist of The North Star (Hokuto no Ken)
Ryu Saeba, from City Hunter
Here instead you can see rounder face shapes, thinner body frames, and a “sweet” approachable look on their face with a complete LACK of assertiveness. As a result of the gradual decline of men and society’s effect on them, these are more recent mangas.
Kirito (Kirigaya Kazuto) From Sword Art Online
I don’t know who this is
Depression and lack of control over one’s emotions came as well. Suddenly Men are portrayed more and more like Women, more prone to showing their inability to control emotions and falling pray to them. Sure, you can dismiss this as an “artistic choice” or by saying that they’re just teenagers boys or whatever (which may be true). But it’s more than just that.
Without a doubt, society is shaped by our decisions, and consequentially, art follows suit as you can see.
So you can act like nothing’s happening, or recognize that this particular current, be it mangas or in other artistic (and not only) media is slowly and unfortunately affecting how men and their masculine traits are perceived, directing this all in a more androgynous path instead.
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A person whom i admire very much, Bruce Lee, it’s linked to today’s topic and i thought mentioning him was a thing it felt right.
Bruce, in my book – is a perfect example of Masculinity : He was an overall achiever, he had objectives on which he never gave up (The acting career) and he was, and probably still is the greatest Martial Artist the world has ever known.
Masculinity today, at times it’s seen like a (and let me put emphasis on the quotes) “”Toxic”” trait.
I completely disagree with that, as it is something that’s intrinsic to the very nature of a man, how can something we’re born with be toxic?
And apart from that, masculinity is a strong and positive force, Men’s situation are changed because of it, are inspired to do good because of it, they take ACTION to better their (and other’s!) life because of it.
Here’s a video that explains it in a very good way – it’s a short video but it’s full of meaning when confronted with a lot of stupid nonsense some people are spouting nowadays. Watch it if you have time:
Now, why do i associate masculinity with Bruce Lee? well, i think that when a Man rises against all odds to realize something that’s really dear to his heart- that’s when he really shines.
And that’s exactly what Bruce did.
Bruce was the “peak of human strength and performance”, but he didn’t accomplish all of this overnight, of course – behind his success there’s a tortuous and long process that was necessary for achieving his strength.
While he enjoyed to stay in (stellar) shape but more importantly to Fight, in this way he wanted to show others (but first and foremost he did this for himself, to better his abilities) that he was the best – you know, some good competition that gave as a fruit the obvious, sought after byproduct of Mastery.
And here comes the good part :
But why does a man put himself into so much trouble to accomplish something? you’d think it’s just to satisfy himself right?
Yes… BUT NO.
While Martial arts can be seen as destructive, it teaches men (and Women, even though these tendencies are more prominent in Men) not to just “be stronger” which in itself is a byproduct – but to Protect something, someone, dear to them.
The rising of certain characteristics such as Heroism, Selflessness, Sacrifice, Kindness, Relentlessness – always spurs because of a greater reason that you can’t see on the surface, martial arts it’s just an example very dear to me, but there are countless different situations – as you’ve seen in the video – where masculinity can be applied to.
In the end, masculinity shouldn’t be overwhelmed with attacks that won’t really go anywhere, as it’s not synonym of violence, as some degenerates love to claim.
Like femininity, masculinity it’s simply a collection of traits found since the birth of human beings, into men.
For both sexes not to express themselves like nature programmed them to, it’s foolish and unnatural, and what REALLY should be “condemned” it’s the toxicity of an individual itself.
No one, I repeat : NO ONE should be attacked and belittled for expressing these beautiful qualities that makes humanity – Human.
This is a more introspective post that hopefully can give you more insight on how to deal with failure and its consequential (awful) feelings- if you’re in that stage. Read on, discouraged bucko!
Now, i don’t want to make this look extreme, but…
I AM Failure incarnated.
And that’s a disclaimer on why YOU shouldn’t beat up yourself too much because of whatever happened to you.
And before i give you practical stuff on how to handle this gnawing and self-blaming feeling, let me show you why i say I AM FAILURE (By society’s standards, at least) so you know a little bit more about good ol’ mysterious me too.
Never finished school and was considered a black sheep by everyone (Yes even family) around me.
Countless jobs to which i applied to- shot me down.
When i saved up money to attend my dream academy, for my dream carreer (A game-development one) I was up to the task JUST BARELY, but i stopped because i felt i couldn’t keep up with the 2nd year. = Wasted (but not really) time, energy and money.
And i could list another 20 things plus more hard personal stuff i was going through. But i don’t want to make this post about ME.
But about YOU. But first, how did i reacted to all of this?
Did i break down at some point? yes. Did i cry? …probably. (keeping it vague for the sake of my manliness) Did i ever feel like i was not enough? you bet. Did i ever got help of any kind from anyone? hell fucking NO
But even in the hopeless state of mind in which i was (and believe me- times were really hopeless), my spark, in the end, never went out.
Why? Because, at some point, my whole being came to a realization.
The failures i’ve experienced and i’m still experiencing DO NOT define me.
Instead, they polish me, they are a test from life to see if i’m FIT to reach my dreams. And that is TRUE FOR YOU, TOO.
Take this analogy as an example:
Do you know how a Blacksmith forges a Sword?
By POUNDING it, over and over again – to get rid of all impurities, So that in the end the sword becomes sharp, and serves a Purpose.
It’s useless as a mere piece of Iron.
And That’s HOW it works when you’re trying to build yourself.
You NEED to be clobbered, in this case, by life.
And trust me, I know.
The feelings that come after failing so many times are unbearable and can take a heavy toll on your mind, body and spirit.
You start questioning yourself, your abilities, your whole point when it comes to your existence.
Now, this might sound clichè- and i think it is- but it’s a very good way of seeing things:
Use your failures as stepping stones.
But careful, i’m not saying that failing it’s everything you should do, like failure, success is also a Teacher.
Although you can’t really control it, you should get your lessons from both your failures AND successes.
They both teach you something different.
When you fail,
reflect on your failures, don’t discount them. I said reflect, not mourn over them.
Learn something from them, what is it that you could have done differently? Take notes. Be active. Re-build your strategy. Don’t feel defeated.
When you succeed, Also take notes. Why is it that i have succeded this time? How can i replicate this, in an even better way next time?
Don’t be complacent when you do succeed.
ALWAYS do better. Both in defeat & victory.
But… what about regret, you say?
Regret shouldn’t really have a place in your heart. Because unlike failures, regret actually STOPS you in your tracks.
Failures make you evolve, Regret makes you complacent, and devolve, even.
It’s the thing that WON’T let you move forward. A useless feeling, A trickster, A plague, Death.
Regret must be replaced with something that shines, something pure… like Resolve.
Its complete opposite.
As soon as possible.
Because regret only comes when you’ve accepted failures and defeat as your way of living. That is why you have the DUTY to avoid going down to that path.
For that path is dark, muddy and filled with desperation and decay.
You owe it to your success, to your happiness, and ultimately- to your life.
If you’ve enjoyed this post and you have any questions i can answer, please like it and comment down below. I’d be happy to help to the best of my abilities.