How Do You Stop Being So Emotional? Ways to Control Your Emotions

Emotions are amazing, I know, but sometimes (most of the time actually) can get in our purpose’s way.

To better manage our life we need to be able to know when to use them and how ( AND IF) to use them.

Let’s see what can you do to blunt the effects of the chaos that are emotions, so you can learn to live without being swayed by them too much.

Emotions are a lifelong journey

While this statement might not be true for all, it’s indisputable that emotions accompany us since the day we’re born. Some handle them better than others of course, but there is ALWAYS a degree of control we can exert on them.

It makes sense since they’re a part of us, and you can make this process easier if you have a stable and strong character on which you can place your emotions.

So we’ve determined that you can control them, even if you’re the most “emotional” of individuals (unless you’re still a freaking kid), but HOW can you avoid letting them control YOU?

Disassociation

This one is tricky, but it’s very effective when used properly. Disassociating with your emotions in a particular moment can be a lifesaver, all you need to do is to “turn the switch off” when a certain emotion arises and STOP acknowledging it.

Especially if you are, for example, in an argument with a person. Think about it, if you don’t switch off your emotions at that time you’ll be between two fires – the person you’re talking to, and your emotions.

And we don’t want that, as that can end up very poorly for you.

Now you’ll be able to make this switch work seamlessly unless you have something that blocks you from doing so, stress is one of those things and can either make or break the attempt of shutting down your emotions in the moment.

If you’re struggling with it do something to decompress from stress.

is there anything else you can do?

Exposing yourself to your emotions

Is another viable road.

By constantly getting accustomed to being in the whirl of your emotions you’ll eventually develop a sort of “immunity” to them. This will result in you being able to push your current threshold to another level, you’ll basically be enlarging your hypothetical emotional cup- so to speak.

This will allow you to bear and endure much longer, and I recommend you to develop a bigger “cup” since you can use it as an extra tool.

Though this approach might be uncomfortable at first, it’s necessary because you’ll get a chance to know yourself and your emotional limits better, and as a byproduct, you’ll be able to have more control over your emotions before they go berserk.

It’s like an additional valve for redirecting the steam, a precautionary measure.

Neat, right?

In the end it doesn’t really matter if you’re “emotional” or whatever the fuck you want to think you are.

Because emotions are real, and as such they can be controlled, and you will be able to control them as much as you’re willing to.

The “hard part” (also called truth) for someone with emotions problems it’s ACKNOWLEDGING that you lack overall self-control over your life in general.

But when you’re at the mercy of your emotions you cannot possibly have any semblance of control.

Take care.

 

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Imagine : Freedom

This post is inspired by : https://nav.al/

I was going through his website and a lot of things began to whirl into my mind, go check him out, it DESERVES your time, if you’re into changing yourself & creating wealth to achieve what i’m going to talk about.

Freedom. Ahhh, so longed. yet not too much to make an individual stop and think : “Hey, maybe breaking my back every day at this job i hate isn’t the right way to achieve it“. And why would this thought ever cross a mind of anyone leading this kind of lifestyle? It won’t, right? though sometimes it can happen, the thought process will just probably end with affirmations like these : “It’s too risky” , “I can’t do that, i’m not capable enough“, “What if i fail? No, i don’t want to live on the streets, i’m fine like this, it could be worse for me.” – These are all understandable thoughts, i had these thoughts too in the past. But don’t you think that by doing this, a person it’s just putting shackles on themselves? how can you know how much can you lift without ever clinching the barbell? You can’t. And by doing this you’re automatically killing your chances to take a shot at True Freedom.

But what do i mean when i say “True Freedom”? it’s nothing special, really, though its values and significance may vary from person to person, the core principle is this : You can structure, use and manage your time in whichever way you find fit. That means that if you want to sleep\go visit the world\ spend your time doing what you love, you can do that without a care in the world… or almost. Because to do that you need to have some kind of income, right? and you may ask what kind of work gives you THAT much freedom and flexibility… i’d say, work you cherish and love – work that you ENJOY doing and at the same time covers all of your expenses even without you actively managing it. This is called “Passive Income” – you basically make money when you’re away, when you sleep, ecc… So yeah, starting your own business! – and you might say “Duh! if it was this easy everyone would do it.” Yeah, i personally don’t think that’s easy, since i am too on this journey to achieve everything that i’m telling you… but put it like this : Do you think you’re just… one of the “Everyone”? you don’t know that until you really challenge yourself and your ideals, and yes, of course it’s not easy – but would you rather do something easy that keeps you in the same spot, angry, sad, without any Freedom or time to live the life YOU want… or would you rather do something Difficult – but definitely doable, and live a life it’s worth living?

Do NOT underestimate yourself and the ability to change your situation, YOU hold the keys to do so, no one else.

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