The Importance Of Values & How A Man MUST Live By Them

In a world where everything’s in constant movement, and nothing is certain, being able to anchor one’s self to something unchanging and grounded could prove of real help when navigating through the stormy sea that is life, that’s when the importance of values come into play.

The Importance Of Values In a Man’s Life

To understand the great role that values play in a Man’s life (or in every decent person’s life, really) we must first learn to recognize them for what they are and what purpose they serve, and this is not implied because nowadays they’re seen as “controversial” or simply as a baggage to dispose of, hence their true meaning is lost and misunderstood by those who compromise the latter in honor of “progress” or as a way to remove limits on one’s self, while in reality, they’re actively placing a chain around their neck without knowing.

So, what are values?

Simply put, values are guidelines—or better, a set of rules by which a man should live by as faithfully as possible, all for the purpose of not making him lose his way throughout life and what he holds dear, they’re something you can rely on because they’ve been set in stone before emotions have the chance to cloud your judgment, and throw you off-center. You can see values as a compass.

Why are values important?The importance of values and faith, a buddha sculpture

The importance of values is something that will vary depending on the person you’re talking to, as I’ve said before, some consider them as a weight ready to be thrown off-ship when they deem right or when they no longer serve their narrative, while others steadily live by them, and honor them.

To make you understand the importance of values, we need to talk about conviction. When you BELIEVE in something and its righteousness you’ll do all that’s in your power to make that thing shine, whether is a side of your personality, or a matter you’re truly invested in.

Since values require a strong belief to be held in the first place, you can see that by sticking to them you automatically are required to have a strong will for you to respect and follow them, this means that you’re a person with substance and you have a strong willpower and resolve to stand for what you believe in, this is a positive side-effect of having values, that value-less people don’t have. This is important because faith and the ability to fight for something you deem just (even when others openly shun you and despise you for doing so) is of utmost importance, be it for the sake of coherence or for the sheer love and significance that comes for treasuring such values.

This conviction spurs from a desire to truly BE BETTER and to uphold and follow this moral compass of yours, a thing like this can’t possibly bring anything but a high ROI when it comes to positive things.

Some stupid but effective examples to make you understand the importance of values could be:

  • Pride/Honor: A complete lack of these values will lead to low self-esteem and a lack of the ability to stand up for yourself in life. An abundance of it could lead you astray if you’re not careful, since people will prey on this weakness.
  • Respect: If you don’t value earned respect, and overall respect for your fellow humans, no matter their background or opinions, you’re not to be taken seriously.
  • Loyalty: If you’re not loyal to something or someone in your life you’ll be a slave to every single new thing that pulls your hand. Lacking this value makes you an untrustworthy little b!@#h.

And I could go on and on and on in listing examples to make you understand the importance of values but the meat & potatoes of it all is that having values GIVES YOU SOMETHING…VALUABLE (Pay no attention to the pun) in order to live your life in accordance to things that bring balance and in order with something tangibly positive.

Another reason why they are important is that by having them, as a byproduct you naturally have higher standards. Whether we’re talking about the people you accept in your life, the things you tolerate and the things you don’t, and this is good because for starters you don’t settle with mediocrity or with things that are not aligned with these values of yours, you know where you stand and what works best for you to have the most “good for you” life.

How to live by your values

Now, as humans, we’re not perfect and there will be times when we’ll lose sight of what’s really important and take a wrong step, but especially as a man, this is NOT an excuse to forsake your values. You ALWAYS have the chance to right your wrongs, as long as you’re adamant about not repeating those mistakes ever again, and I’m telling you this because as a man, your values shouldn’t be something you compromise on.

A part of a man’s being is to be UNWILLING to sell his soul for an instant of pleasure at the cost of what he believes in, since that’s the exact moment when you’ll stop being a man. Caving into the madness of others is something you should leave to everyone else, you need to be always calm, ready to take action and make your stand. But don’t think you have much room for error, in fact, you don’t.

We can make mistakes, sure, but every single mistake happens ONCE, after it took place you supposedly learn from it and NEVER MAKE IT AGAIN.

In the end, living by a set of values it’s not easy and is not for everyone but by doing so you’ll have the advantage of being grounded like an old Oak, and the privilege to rely on something that works, that others don’t. Your fists will not be “light” and without a meaning behind them.

8 Crucial Things Every Man Should Have By The Time He Turns 30

While it’s true that a man is not defined by what he owns, there are exceptions where if said man doesn’t have some of these things, it means that maybe he doesn’t have all the freedom he could have and he’s not a real man, because these things are not really choices, they’re necessities instead that play an important part in a man’s life, that enable him to exercise his will and freedom without being held back, that’s why today we’re looking at…

8 Things Every Man Should Have By The Time He Turns 30

1) His Own Housenicehouse

It goes without saying that still living with your parents by the time you’re 30…well, it doesn’t look too good for you as a person, but more importantly as a man, having your own house is a MUST before you turn 30, how are you supposed to stay calm and by yourself with the privacy you deserve otherwise? especially if your family isn’t really positive or happy, and where are you going to invite those spicy señoritas (I borrowed this term from Alpha M. lol ) into your mom’s house? really?

You need to have your own place so you can treat is as your world, your realm, and do whatever the hell you want in it, this obviously takes the 1st place on this list of things every man should have by the time he turns 30!

2) His Own Businessbusinessman

This is second for a good reason, let me ask you…as a man, would you rather spend your life under someone else’s thumb and orders, or would you rather do your own thing without feeling terrible and earning way more?

Yeah, I thought so! having a business (or, why not, multiple sources of income!) not only makes you less miserable as a man as you don’t go living paycheck to paycheck, but also improves your attractiveness to people and girls in general, that’s why before you turn 30, having a solid business set in stone falls in second place.

3) A Home Gymgym

Okay, this I admit it’s very personal as a choice, but I believe having your own gym in the crib before you’re 30 is not only a great accomplishment but a WIN in terms of time & money spent.

Not only you won’t have any time restriction or monthly expenses…you could decorate it the way you want and without the worry of other people being around and disrupting your workout, silence, peace and gains! 

I would also treat it as some sort of meditation temple, you know, the kind of meditation you go into when you train with all you’ve got, treat it as your manly, personal training grounds where you can do training montages before a very important event! very manly if you ask me, and you can start building it right away with something as simple as these dumbbells I found and I now use them everyday, perfect for when you don’t want to make a mess out of it, since they have all kinds of sizes, you don’t need much, just put a new piece of equipment little by little.

But if you yet don’t have the chance of creating your own gym you can still use your bodyweight to get amazing results, but what if you don’t have a clue on how to get started on fitness & healthy eating? worry not, you can check out my complete fitness guide, which is at 20% OFF BUT JUST for the next 20 copies, and it will make it simple for you to get in shape, since it’s packed with information and my personal guidance for you to get that dream body of yours without any fancy or complicated methods, hurry and don’t let it slip by.

4) His Own Carsupercar

Taking your parent’s car or going through the city with your bike and public transportations only can be counterproductive when you have to rely on them in an uncertain situation.

That’s why having your own car could make your life much easier. also, you could go to places you couldn’t go as easily if you rode something else, then there’s also the freedom to go wherever you want, whenever you want without depending on someone else’s permission or schedule, that’s why I believe that having a car before you’re 30 is necessary, the end goal after all, for a man, is FREEDOM.

5) An Amazing Leather Jacketmanleatherjacket

Nothing screams more “manly” than a good ‘ol leather jacket, it smells good and makes you feel like you’re going on a fateful road trip on your motorcycle to save the world from evil, it also looks very cool on you no matter who you are, so if you want to level up your bad boy coefficient I got you with this cheap but amazing & stylish leather jacket I found on Amazon.

Think about it, how can you reach your 30’s and not be a proud owner of a leather jacket? it is a must for a man, and it will surely improve your overall style since they pair well with everything: jeans, boots, sport shoes…you name it.

6) A Mountain Cabinmountaincabin

This may seem far fetched for most of you and though it’s understandable, I personally need something like this, and I’m positive you need it as well if you’re a man, the reason being: solitude.

Similar to the home gym, there are times where we, as men, must prioritize our spiritual and mental wellbeing, and what better way to do so than a mountain cabin\house? it provides you with that much needed peace and solitude you so desperately seek, and though it may seem like a very optional thing I’m still convinced that every man should be able to leave the chaos in his life at any moment in time when it becomes unbearable and find warmth in his refuge, to reflect, re-invent himself and think.

This holds especially true when turning 30 because the previous years are going to be hectic, even hellish for some, and having a personal, peaceful place to let it all out can be lifesaving.

7) A Big Knife\knivesknives

Whether we’re talking about some amazing cheese knives you can use for cutting tasty slices of parmesan or your favorite smelly cheese, or some self-defense blades to use when in a pickle, or hell, even to just practise wood carving…knives are one of the things every man should own by the time he turns 30, and for good reason.

Not only they’re versatile and come in handy in every situation a man might find himself in, they’re also very manly and useful even just for mundane tasks such as slicing open packages, or enjoying your evening snack in a masculine way, and in this way you also know that when shit hits the fan, you have something to rely on.

8) A Quality Suitsuit

The suit doesn’t make the man, but in this case it might as well do, having a suit in order to look sharp or to attend some particular event is something all men should have before they turn 30.

Not only a great suit, like this cheap but awesome piece from Calvin Klein, can set you apart from the competition and acts as a surefire piece of clothing in such times, it will also make you radiate a different aura, the aura of a man who cares about himself and how he dresses for every occasion, making people understand that you hold yourself in high regard.

You can either go with a classic black, or navy blue when you’re choosing suits or if you feel a bit eccentric you could dare to sport a bright crimson red, which comes off as very adamant and masculine.

6 Proven Ways To Be Irresistible To Women

Let’s not fool ourselves gentlemen, if you’re a man, you want to do everything in your power to be attractive to the ladies and there’s nothing wrong with playing your hand in the most effective way when it comes to dating. That’s exactly why today I have for you: 6 Proven Ways To Be Irresistible To Women, let’s dissect them together.

6 ways to be irresistible to women

1) The Good ‘Ol Mysterious Man

One of the 10 ways to be irresistible to women is to be a bit like James Bond
Being like our loved Daniel Craig in the James Bond role, will surely help to make women curious, I mean just look at that confident grin.

I’m starting the list with this classic, because it’s one of the most quick and effective ways for women to get curious about you…but only if done right and without deception, let me expand on this: if you’re being mysterious just for the sake of doing so, women WILL pick up on it, they can smell a liar by miles away, so your air of uncertainty must be real, a part of who you are in order for them to be intrigued, acts won’t work.

So, for you to pull this off you must have that veil of charisma about you that says you have a lots of secrets to share but simply won’t do so, because well…you’re REALLY cool and mysterious, so if you’re a plain simpleton and a boring person overall this will not do. With that said, if your reasons to keep the mystery up are genuine, the girls will be all over you, trust me on this.

2)Be Good Lookinggood looking man

Now there are a few things you can do to improve your looks if genetic has not bestowed the best set of traits upon you, so don’t fret and see how you can improve your appearance but in general, keeping yourself well groomed and clean goes a long way and women will notice it, hence making you more sexy and kissable because you don’t smell like a nasty sock, and you look like you have a semblance of style and can dress good.

Not only that but doing so will set you apart from the rest of the guys who smell bad, have nasty teeth or simply just don’t take care of themselves.

3)Be Stronga strong man who lifts and has a strong personality is

It’s no secret that strength is very attractive to women, they gravitate towards strong men after all, both men who have a strong character and who are strong in the physical realm make a woman weak in the knees, so the objective here is to build yourself a chiseled body and develop a strong personality.

Do you think a woman abhors muscles and a man who knows what he’s doing and sets firm boundaries about what he accepts and what he doesn’t? think again.

And if you need help to get in shape and start building muscle, my amazing fitness guide is what you were searching for.

4)Make her work for your loveone of the ways to be irresistible to women is to make her work for you

Do you think a woman will care about some random ass dude that will promptly accept her and welcome her into his life without a second thought, when he just met her? fool, women don’t want this kind of man, because it’s not very desirable in their eyes and because it took NO EFFORT from their part whatsoever, they want a man who’s hard to conquer, a challenge so to speak, see it like this: who wants to skip all the levels and the hard work needed for getting that end-game equipment in a videogame? no one, because it would defeat the purpose of it all, and most of all it will forbid you of the satisfaction of having accomplished something, the same applies to a man’s heart in a woman perspective.

Reality is that women love to prove themselves to a man they deem “worthy” so they’ll gladly go out of their way to work in order for you to appreciate them so they’ll please you with things like: cooking for you, staying feminine and providing “softness”, making you little gifts and other cute girly things, and not only is this working in your favor, it’s also one of the beautiful dynamics of a genuine man-woman relationship.

5)Have Your Own Lifeman on a mountain

This shouldn’t even be on this list because it’s something you should already have, but not for everyone this aspect is obvious so I had to include it anyway, and of course this is something that would appeal to a woman, since it’s an overall appealing characteristic for either sexes to have something going on in your life.

This could be something as simple as going out with your buddies, taking time off the world to work out and increase your strength, or working towards that ambition of yours, whether it’s work or a passion project, making women understand that they’re not the central focus of your life and that you do have something to do on a daily basis it’s very attractive in their eyes because they can openly see you as someone who does something valuable with their time.

Very few (almost nonexistent) women like couch potatoes who spend their lives solely in a pleasurable way (ex: playing videogames all day, drinking, only partying etc…) remember, as a man you’re valuable in their eyes for WHO you are as a real man, and losing time without a direction gives you very little of what you should be as a person but as a man, most importantly.

6)Value Your Timeman woman time

This is the next topic on this list of ways to be irresistible to women, now this is a rule for women attraction but it’s also a rule you should live by nevertheless, if you want to keep everything around you productive and void of toxicity, you need to learn to value the most important thing you have as a human, and that is your time, why?

Your time is your presence, what you put your attention in, and in the end it’s what defines your life’s outcome, that’s why you should treat it carefully and with the utmost respect in general but even more carefully when you’re dealing with women. The reason being that women are attention-dependent, and by extent time-dependent, by your time to be exact.

They will leech on it and gradually lose respect for you and your time because you’re giving them your time like it’s a free currency of some sort, and they will feel entitled to it after a while, doing the opposite instead you make them understand that your time is important and has value because you use your time for meaningful things and that’s exactly when women will start respecting you because you respect your time this time around, and this will make them feel a certain (good) way about you, and they’ll learn to savor and appreciate the times where you’ll finally give them some of your attention and time because they now know that it’s important, respect yourself first and people will follow!

How To Harness Amazing Power As A Man: Anger

Motivation? Bull.
Gratitude? Yeah, it helps.
Discipline? Sure, whatever.

I’ve extensively talked about those things and how they can help you in life but…today’s topic it’s something i think it’s exclusive to Men, which i have briefly talked about in this article. That doesn’t mean that women can’t feel anger don’t get me wrong – but we are more prone and seem to channel this feeling better than our female counterpart.

james bond uses his anger to get what he wants - revenge.
An angry James Bond, I advise you to stay away from him! that’s what a really angry man looks like, fierce but composed.

I mean, look at history! most warriors were men, and for a good reason. We’re wired for conquest, achievement, physical strength and…consequential anger, no matter whatever people might think. Have you seen those movies where the main character (a man) – take John Wick as a “modern” example or James Bond – gets everything taken away from him and then he automatically gets on revenge-mode? NO ONE can stop him.

And that’s not just because it’s a movie and it’s meant to go that way, this happens in real life too.

Ever seen a man who got bullied in schooldumped by the girlfriend he loved get a monster’s physique the year later or succeeding in his endeavors, and suddenly it seems like he’s a totally different person? You got it, that’s because of ANGER.

And even YOUR Anger, if you can harness it properly it’s going to shoot you towards your goals. But you need to have a reason to your anger, it’s not just like because you spilled your drink on your suit you suddenly feel anger, that’s stupid stuff.

You must have a real, profound reason to this anger – it must be a constant raging fire inside you, which you can control and redirect.

Not to destroy, mind you, because it’s dangerous – but to create. Think deeply about it, what’s something that you find enraging and you wish it went a different way? maybe it’s because someone who you think is a fool has something you don’t and crave, i don’t know, wealth, that dream car or whatever and you start thinking: “why is that incredible awesome me does not have that, and that ridiculous fool does”? – maybe your anger spurs because you want to repay back those who’ve hurt you in the past and let them see what you can become, that’s another good reason.

Maybe you’re angry because you’re in a situation you spite and can’t give back to your parents that have always provided for you the peace of mind and of finances they deserve.

Whatever might be for you. Feel the Rage.

Every day when you wake up, when you’re scaling that business, going through the motions, lifting that weight, look at your goals with a mean stare. Feel the injustice of your state of being and destroy the obstacles that stand on your path with it.

Society nowadays it’s blasting you in the face with material containing a weak, tranquil and oftentimes emasculated man – stray from that, because that’s how you WILL NOT be what you’re meant to be, don’t be fooled, Men are meant to be angry and obsessed with a Purpose! anger nowadays it’s framed as a negative feeling, while for a Man it’s a positive and essential feeling. It becomes negative only when it’s uncontrolled, remember that.

And while you’re at it why don’t you use your Anger to get in the best shape of your life this new year with my new & straight to the core Fitness Guide ? Hurry though, it’s 25% OFF until tomorrow. It has everything you need to get started to lose fat and build muscle. Easy to follow and at this ridiculous price just for now!

Take care,

-V

The Authentic Masculine Look & Its 4 Aesthetic Traits

Today I’m going to talk about the ideal masculine look in its physicality and appearance since I’ve already talked about what makes a true man in the character spectrum of the thing.

So what are the things that define a true manly, masculine appearance on a man? Let’s see them together.

Masculine Look, Muscles & Fat Percentagea good example of a masculine look

One thing that undoubtedly makes or breaks a man’s looks is his fat percentage, now, don’t start crying on me if you’re chubby and want to lose that fat so you can start to look like a true man (or woman) because I just solved your problems with my amazing Fitness Guide for dummies, so check it out if you need assistance with that. Why is that so though? well the reason is simple, the less fat you have on your body, the more your natural masculine traits will shine! 

Take your jawline as example, less overall body fat means a squared and well-defined jawline, or your abs! with less fat your stomach is flat and your abs will look more ripped, and we all know that dad bods ARE NOT sexy at all, right? then, the leaner you are, the more your veins will “pop out” and girls will love you, there are countless benefits related to looks when it comes to being a low fat individual.

Then there’s muscles, men were meant to be muscular and lean because they always engaged in demanding physical activities unlike their soft and gracious female counterparts, thus making it become the staple look of a healthy man. Being muscular will make you look more masculine, strong and attractive, your goal here is the V-taper kind of body, large shoulders, slim waist! come on, do you really think that a skinny guy with toothpicks as arms will be considered more masculine than a man who has his biceps looking like mighty guns? weakness is not a masculine trait.

Hair, Beards & Such

Ideally, another feature of a true masculine look is hair density, having flowing luscious hair and a rigorous beard (even body and chest hair!) is a sign of health and manliness, but not everyone is blessed with hair\beard genetics, in fact lots of men go bald or look like a baby trying to put on a beard with a permanent marker, yikes. Though this can somewhat be supported by changing your lifestyle into a more active, healthier one, so your testosterone levels will bump up and trigger some hair growth, not every man in the end will be able to be a burly hairy werewolf and that’s fine, work with what you have, that’s the best way of going about things.

The Smile

Okay, but what about his smile? the masculine look bingo card wouldn’t be complete without this aspect of a man, is your smile weak, void of personality, awkward or even forced? that’s not very masculine. A “masculine smile” it’s usually very charismatic and enveloping, magnetic almost, I’ve included a man’s smile in this because it’s actually a very powerful signature of a man that conveys confidence and masculinity, when it comes to one’s looks it’s a way of proving how comfortable a man is with his expression of all he is through something simple as a smile.

Gaze, Eye Contact & Technicalities

This, like the smile, is one of the major things that characterize the masculine look, the eyes of a man. Believe it or not your eyes can communicate a whole lot of things, depending on how you use them, usually your average weak ass guy doesn’t take advantage of his eyes not because he doesn’t want to, but because he can’t.

You see, eyes and confidence are interlinked, a man who’s not confident and doesn’t feel enough of a man won’t be capable of maintaining eye contact with another person with confidence, for example, his stare will not communicate or arouse anything in another’s person psyche because it’s weak at its core thus wasting the potential of those eyes, a man who’s confident in his masculinity and himself instead will use his eyes accordingly by naturally maintaining eye contact when speaking to people, will let those eyes tell stories of magic and wisdom while keeping a veil of mystery upon it all, the latter are the kind of eyes that when people look into them see the universe and will keep them wondering about the depth of this man, making them feel like they NEED to know what he’s thinking, is almost as though you can feel the “weight” of such eyes, and that’s very manly because your eyes can subconsciously communicate your essence to another.

As you can see the difference lays in how the bearer of such looks utilize them also, not just in the looks themselves, this should make you hopeful because some things you can’t change, but other you can improve.