It’s certain, this year will change EVERYTHING for You.
Whether you made up excuses in the past, or things didn’t go the way you wanted to, this year, for better or worse will act as a catalyst for your life to be shaken in a positive way, or to completely fall apart.
I say this because the world is under tremendous changes that we didn’t see for centuries, so everything is bound to move (spiritually, physically. and on other planes) Even if you take no action whatsoever you will be inevitably swayed by the action going around you, and I don’t want to say this to discourage you, but to frame you in a control mindset.
Take WHATEVER action needed for you to rise up and fight against change, and eventually ruin because from this point onward, depending just on yourself it’s going to be a necessity, a must.
I want this year for you to be the year in which you feel good about yourself and your life, to make significant changes that’ll lead you to a bright future that holds no uncertainty for yourself, I want you to become strong. Now more than ever please don’t give in, don’t give up and trust in yourself and in what you can do even if you have no reason to do so after all that’s happened.
Live by holding your beliefs and values close to your heart without being affected by judgment or the hatred of others. I wish you a year of life-changing events and beautiful blessings and opportunities.
This is not only a heartfelt message for you all out there, struggling and fighting, it’s also a reminder for myself.
Keeping your cool could make the difference in handling whatever the situation might ask of you in the BEST POSSIBLE WAY.
Who wouldn’t want that?
Yet people don’t even make the effort to try and maintain their temper. But what can you do to improve this aspect of your personality?
While there isn’t a “quick fix” but it’s instead a series of deep underlying problems that an individual might have developed through life… i can surely give you a few little pointers that might make a difference.
See problems as something to solve.
Not as something that needs your emotional investment in. Exactly, you got it, taking emotions out of the equation will certainly make solving your problems a easier task.
Simple as that. Take deep breaths, as humans – that’s our personal way of blowing-literally, steam off. (aka negative energies) we’re like a locomotive. Breathing will calm you almost instantly and will give you a clear mind. Couple this with daily meditation, and you’re gold.
Watch the situation from “up-high”
I usually use this method, i imagine myself being at the top of a super huge mountain, while looking down to the problems at hand.
In this way you can easily give your problems the right proportion, and you’ll see that it’s not something you should really worry about.
It also helps me understand better the situation i’m facing, since i can give the me “down there” effective advices on how to tackle it, in a calm and collected way.
If I have learned something about succeeding in my short journey as an entrepreneur is that very little goes as planned, today I’m going to condense in a few points what has worked for me when it comes to succeeding in your endeavors even when the chances are not in your favor.
1) Good Old Hard Work
If nothing works, hard work will!
Everyone says that this is obvious and trite as advice, yet they all downplay it and when it comes down to doing the nitty-gritty of the work they’ll instead choose avoidance and the comfort of their no risk zone in which they’ll slouch and do NOTHING.
“Oh yeah hard work I know, it’s always the same stuff, you’re not giving any real advice” you’ll say with your little chubby cheeks and your dead eyes.
And they even start wondering why they’re not going forward in life with that monotone, lazy attitude, guess what, nobody is going to give you what you want in life unless you take it with your own two hands, and this holds especially true when you’re coming from a place of scarcity and misfortune, the worse your situation, the harder you need to work, you better hammer it into your head if you want to go somewhere.
Hard work is not thinking really hard about something *YOU THINK* you want but you’re not willing to work for, everyone finds cool the idea of succeeding (getting rich, a new house, a new car, finding glory and fame ecc…) but no one wants to take on their shoulders the immense pressure and the amount of work and pain that comes with it, the cold reality though is that hard work is the basis for all kind of success, everything else comes as something you build on it.
Hard work is consisted of but is not limited to:
Repetition of said work
Sweat, tears and blood
Thousands of hours spent
Succeeding doesn’t sound so sexy anymore, does it? Still in it? If so read on otherwise go home because it’s going to get worse before it gets better.
2) Understand Where You’re At
Now, when the odds are against you in your quest to success you need to acknowledge your starting point, whether you’re from a poor family, you lack experience or qualifications in a certain area or anything else that is not working in your favor…the first thing you need to do is to draw a picture of your situation and what you can exploit about the uniqueness of it (even if it’s bad, yes).
Then you have to be at peace with how things are right now, BUT have the will to change them, since you can’t waste time being upset with how things are, yet you cannot afford yourself to think that you are not able to change things, ditch this victim mindset and always strive for better without holding onto the bad and instead by being grateful and positive. By doing that you’re already setting yourself apart from 90% of population who’s just about focusing on negativity and wishful thinking.
3) Block & Outplay The Noise
One of the things you will have to learn to NOT pay attention to in order to succeed, is the noise and the criticism moved by jealousy or pure hatred that’ll come from people. Given your background and present challenges there will be people (even upfront or behind your back) that will try to pull you down with comments about how you don’t have what it takes to do what you want to do, and that’s fine.
And that’s because only YOU know the hand you’ve been dealt with, the challenges you have and had to overcome in order to be where you want to be, so why should you care about some nobodies spouting nonsense from their mouths? you’ve been through worse than that already anyway, don’t let them shake you one bit and leave them speechless with your actions.
Resilience and indifference is the name of the game.
When pursuing higher and meaningful visions, whether you were or weren’t lucky in your upbringing or in life, do like this: envision you and your goal in a pitch black darkness, with the reflectors pointed right and only at you both. Only you and your purpose exist in that darkness, everything else going on is just chatter and must fade in comparison of the greatness you’re aiming to.
4) Don’t Be Your Worst Enemy
Your Self has the potential to be your worst enemy or your greatest ally, but scores of people end up falling prey to a kind of impostor syndrome that spurs from their past not being riddled with incredible achievements, this holds especially true when you always felt like you’ve been dealt with the shorter end of the stick.
This is wrong and you have to burn this way of thinking, not just because you are not—first and foremost, defined by your past, but also because you’re consciously (or subconsciously) using this as an excuse to not succeed by putting labels on yourself and what you are able or not able to accomplish.
Burnout is something that once in a lifetime everyone will experience, it’s a dreadful state of mind that can crawl and damage your body, even. So how does one avoid it?
Today I’ve put together for you a useful handy guide you can refer to when you don’t know how to act:
1)Avoiding Burnout Is Simply a Choice
Before you start saying “What the F*** are you saying, this can’t be, why would someone choose to be burned out in the first place!” hear this out.
Burning out is the result of a string of bad choices, usually the juggling of too many (demanding) activities at once, so it makes sense to say that you chose to be burned out because it was your doing. You simply wasn’t aware at the time because those things needed time to stack up on each other and take a toll on you, but that’s what it is.
The good thing, at the same time is…that it still remains a choice, and that allows you to have control over it, meaning: there’s something you can do. Let me give you some guidelines.
1) Before you start putting too much food on your plate (commitments of any kind, work related ecc…) start with gauging your limits
This will allow you to know to which extent fill your stress “cup” before any damage is done, while keeping the productive side in you happy, this is your multitasking—so to say, capacity. Keep in mind that as humans though we’re not naturally wired to multitask, we work better when we focus on a single, or very few things.
2) Choose things you enjoy doing, rather than things that you HAVE to do when avoiding burnout.
WARNING, I’m not saying to discard your responsibilities, the point here is to prefer enjoyable things to things you can’t stand doing when going into something, so that in this way you have little of the things that you don’t really enjoy doing, hence reducing the chances of burnout.
3) What If You’re Already In Too deep?
So you already went and took the work load of 22 freight trains, didn’t you? Well, this is trickier than when you don’t have to juggle with anything but what you can do is to throw away some, if not all of the “load” you’re carrying. If you can cut off tasks that are just a waste of time, do so, if you’ve signed up for a cooking course or something, reconsider if that’s really top priority in your current situation. This is similar to the point N°2, but with the difference that you directly take off “meat” you don’t need from your plate, instead of choosing which cut you’d rather eat, less things to work with!
Exactly like nutrition, In the end you always have the power to choose as I’ve shown you, be sure to take these precautionary steps in order to preventing burnout in the first place, basically MAKE. WISE. CHOICES.
2)Avoiding Burnout by using the “Valve” method
Great, now I want you to visualize burning out as a pressure pot, there’s a set amount of heat the pot can take before the steam starts puffing out. Your objective here is to avoid reaching that point, and there’s two ways you can achieve this—you either lower the heat, or you give that heat a chance to flow out with a valve, a countermeasure.
First off, the valve method is pretty straightforward, you begin by putting in place constructive habits that can disperse that steam before it blows off the lid, here, let me give you some “valve” examples that come in handy when dealing with avoiding burnout:
1)Taking some time off
The simplest of solutions yet so effective. In the midst of a busy and hectic work-life you can easily fall prey to stress and hence to burnout, so it’s of utmost importance that you know when to plug off, even if it may seem abrupt to you.
Taking a day or a few days off from your demanding situation is crucial in order to not burn yourself out, this not only gives you the chance to reset all to 0 but provides you with some much needed clarity on how to tackle your problems going forward.
2)Balance it all with hobbies
Hobbies are a powerful valve which you can support yourself with, spending hours deep into something you enjoy doing with your leisure time can free yourself of some of that weight that is packing onto your back. Some of my favorites that I recommend you try are: hiking, modelling, crafting (something from wood as example) and reading.
And here I am speaking from personal experience, since being able to have something to let my mind and spirit wander free for a while really helped me not to melt down when I was going through a crazy period in my life.
3)Understand that not everything is worth your worry
Another helpful thing that can act as a valve is your own emotional resilience, Or better, the ability to manage your emotional investment in every little or bigger thing you get involved with. This can be reconnected with what I said before about choices, the number of things that can get to your nerves will automatically reduce, if at the same time you further yourself emotionally from said matters.
This, if done properly can give birth to a skill that is essential in life, which is NOT caring as much, and you’re in luck because this skill can be trained, not investing yourself with what’s going on almost acts as an “automatic” kind of valve, that filters out unnecessary, damaging things from your proxemic bubble so to speak.
4)Training & Working out
Why did I not put this on the “hobbies” list you ask? foolish question, working out is VITAL to one’s physical and mental health, so it cannot be in the same category as hobbies, this is something you must do and is one of the things that can bring the biggest change in your fight against burnout, seeing that consistent training meddles (in a positive way) with the chemicals in your body and changes you on a broader scale.
When you really need to get your shit together, maybe because something bad happened and you can’t shake off that feeling of constant discomfort that is holding you back, or you simply worry too much about something you can’t control, or you fell back into depression and can’t afford yourself to be stuck there…
That’s when you could use something to take back control into your hands or a quick pick-me-up ritual in order to feel better.
Today I give you 20 + 1 ways you can use to instantly feel better and are SURE to work, pick whatever you like doing, let’s go:
The most basic human function you can consciously engage in, and that levels down your overall stress levels and heartbeat.
A warm cup of Tea or herbal tea can really give you that feeling of warmth, relaxation and affection you were looking for, protection almost. Prefer fruity stuff and don’t go heavy with the sugar though.
6) Hang out with your pals
When nothing seems to cheer you up or give you peace of mind, hanging out with your friends and have some good old’ social interaction it’s just what you needed to feel happy and forget all the worries you have.
7) Watch (ONE) Good Film
While I don’t want you to become a potato couch, because you SHOULDN’T. The occasional amazing movie is something you can use to visit a whole another world in which you can lose yourself in.
8) Cook something
Cooking something wholesome from scratch is an amazing way to redirect your rage\stress into something else while making something delicious to eat with your pretty hands.
9) Work Out
You knew this was coming. But this is an incredibly undervalued way to give a new spin to an already bad day, trust me, your day will drastically change once you’ve tired yourself out of that bad energy.
10) Take some alone time
Life needs balance. There are times when being a social bee can cheer you up, and times when you can’t really bring yourself to do that, and your mind needs some quiet and loneliness, especially if you are a very social individual, taking some time to stay with your lonesome can be incredibly soothing.
Seriously, have you ever tried getting into a scorching hot sauna? Stay awhile into that place and when you come out of it you’ll feel almost purified, reborn, PURE, CLEAN! sure your vision will be foggy for a while, but definitely try it if you have the chance.
12) Spend more time in nature
It’s no secret that nature is where we feel the most connection as humans since that’s where we come from, this study proves that spending your time in green environments can greatly reduce stress and help with your overall mood.
13) Start reading a book
Similarly to watching a film, reading that good book you’ve been putting off can give you the same immersion (if not better) than your favorite movie, plus- you’ll be spared obnoxious sound\visual effects that may bother your search of peace.
14) Get yourself a massage
This is a way of relaxation that you think it affects just your body but you’ll be happy to know that massages can relieve just as much tension from your mind as well. The ancients have been using massages as a therapeutic way since the dawn of time. Whether is Chinese, Russian or Thai, you’re sure to leave the room as a relaxed person.
15) Fight it out
This can go hand-in-hand with working out, but fighting has a different kind of feeling to it when it comes to “releasing” bad emotions and stress, you can really duke them out, just be considerate to your sparring partner if you are planning to use one, don’t destroy that poor soul!
Having a good quick nap or a full night’s restful sleep, is one of the most simple, effective ways you can shut everything off and start fresh once again, ready to tackle whatever is thrown at you.
17) Have a glass
Whether it is whiskey or your preferred alcoholic beverage of choice, as long as it helps your nerves you should go for it. Just don’t overdo it, you don’t need that much to enjoy its calming benefits.
This is a fun and super quick way to blow off a lot of steam instantly, especially if you’re overruled by anger and don’t want your neighbors to hear you. Pretty straightforward, grab a big pillow, push your face into it and let it all out!
19) Jerk Off
Plain and simple. You’d be better off doing passionate sex with your fiancee than with your hand though, but then again, you do what you can! This method is sure to work and as quick as they …come!
Yeah, this is the 3rd point that involves moving your butt, but then again, there’s a reason why I include movements in this list, it’s one of the quickest ways you can reset your mood, and sprints in particular (or hell even hill sprints!) can quickly make you realize that your problems are nothing when compared to you being gasping for air.
Be sure to be warmed up first, then go for 6 sets of 30 seconds each doing the best you can, repeat again for a total of 12 sets with a short 10 seconds break between sets.
The goal here is to put 101% of your effort when sprinting, you need to be FAST, otherwise it turns into a jog.
You’ll be humbled quickly, both your ego and your problems will seem nothing when you’re done.
This study proves that music is an awesome way to get the chance to be laid back and release all of that awful stress you may have, thanks to its frequency and brainwaves that have been shown to release soothing hormones into the body. This is probably one of the most used ways for people to relax, since music is a universal language for “feeling good”.
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